A ceremony you'll actually feel while it's happening.
Vow renewal and wedding officiating rooted in the body. Spoken from the truth of you. Where presence is the practice — and love is felt, not just witnessed.
SOMATIC CEREMONY + SACRED UNION
FACILITATED + OFFICIATED BY JILLIAN STELLA
SERVING NEW YORK + PUERTO RICO
WHAT THIS IS
A vow renewal or wedding ceremony that lands — in your body, in real time, together.
Most ceremonies are beautiful on the outside and rushed on the inside. You're managing nerves, hitting cues, trying to be present while your body runs on adrenaline — and before you know it, it's over. This is designed differently. The somatic work and the ceremony are one and the same. You'll arrive regulated, grounded, and genuinely inside the moment before a single word is spoken.
THE MOST ESSENTIAL ADD-ON
The Somatic Couples Practice — Remember why you're here.
Before any ceremony, the nervous system needs to come home. Ceremony days are full of logistics, family, adrenaline, and everything that pulls you both in different directions — away from each other, away from the moment.
This dedicated pre-ceremony session brings you back to center, and back to each other. We work with whatever is alive in you — anticipation, nerves, grief, joy, the weight of how much this moment means. Nothing is bypassed. All of it becomes part of the arrival.
Couples who do this session consistently describe their ceremony as fuller, quieter inside, and more real. They were there — not performing presence, but actually inside it together.
This is the work that makes the ceremony possible.
SIGNATURE ADD-ON
Somatic Couples Practice Pre-Ceremony Session
A body-based session in the hours or days before your ceremony. We use breath, co-regulation, and somatic awareness to clear whatever stands between you and full presence — so you arrive already open.
Nervous system regulation for ceremony-day stress
Somatic co-regulation practices for both of you
Work with real emotions — not around them
Arrive feeling like yourselves, together
Deepens every element of the ceremony itself
$185 · Add to any package
What’s typically woven in
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Somatic Arrival
Breath and body grounding woven into the opening of every ceremony — bringing your nervous system out of performance mode and into presence.
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Partner Work
Somatic co-regulation practices held between you both throughout the ceremony itself. You'll be breathing together, regulated together. -
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Story & Script
Your story woven in and spoken aloud — or a beautifully crafted standard ceremony script. Your words, your love, your truth.
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Vow Speaking
Space to speak your vows — written in your own words or lovingly guided. The words that matter, held with the care they deserve.
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Sacred Ritual
A symbolic ritual act held after your vows — a living, physical expression of what you've just chosen and returned to together.
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Integration
A gentle closing practice so you can receive and truly land everything that just happened — carrying it with you, in your bodies.
Ceremony Packages
Tier 1
$450
The Seed
shorter · standard structure
One planning call
Standard ceremony script
Somatic arrival & grounding
One ritual element
Intentional & complete — lovingly held as-is.
Most loved!
Tier 2
$750
The Root & Bloom
longer · your story woven in
Two planning & prep calls
Your story woven throughout
Personalized vow guidance
Custom ritual
Written ceremony keepsake
More time, more depth, more of you inside it.
Tier 3
$1,000
The Full Unfurling
deepest · full preparation
Three prep & support calls
Deep relationship mapping
Full story & vow crafting
Fully custom ritual design
Pre-ceremony somatic session
Email support
Full support from the first call to the big day.
Please note: wedding officiating through Jillian is ceremonial and does not include legal solemnization. A legal officiant can be arranged separately if needed.
Deepen the experience with add-ons:
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✦ Somatic Couples Practice Pre-Ceremony
$185 A dedicated session before your ceremony day to help you both arrive already open. We work with whatever is present — nerves, anticipation, grief, joy — so nothing stands between you and the moment when it matters most.
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✦ Vow Writing Intensive
$145 · You share your story, your love, what you most want to say — and I shape it into vows that sound like you. Not like what vows are supposed to sound like. Like you.
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✦ Extended Ceremony Time
$150 Add 15–20 minutes for a longer, more spacious experience — more breath, more stillness, more room for the moment to fully open.
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✦ Elopement Ceremony
From $600 Just the two of you. Fully held. Location dependent — reach out to discuss.
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✦ Travel
$0.70 per mile beyond 30 miles Overnight travel requires lodging. I'll always be transparent about what to expect before you book.
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Integration
A gentle closing practice so you can receive and truly land everything that just happened.
WHY THIS WILL FEEL DIFFERENT
Most ceremonies are beautiful on the outside and rushed on the inside.
You're managing nerves, hitting cues, trying to be present while your body is running on adrenaline — and before you know it, it's over.
This ceremony is designed so you actually feel it while it's happening.
The arrival grounding, the partner work, the way the ceremony is paced and held — all of it is intentionally structured to bring your nervous system out of performance mode and into presence. You'll be breathing together, regulated together, before a single word is spoken.
That's possible because of the work I've spent years doing — in somatic healing, grief, transformation, and emotional regulation. I understand what the body does under the weight of a meaningful moment, and I know how to work with it rather than around it.
What couples feel most is that they were actually there. Not watching it happen — inside it, together, in their bodies, in real time.
I create vow renewal and wedding ceremonies that honor love and emotional connection — not as a performance of feeling, but as an actual experience of it. What I bring to a ceremony is years of training in somatic healing, grief work, and emotional regulation: the understanding of what the body does when something truly matters, and how to hold that with skill.
My work sits at the intersection of officiating and body-based practice. That means the ceremony itself is the healing — designed to bring you into presence together, from the very first breath to the final integration.
I work with a small number of couples each season. When I'm with you, I'm fully with you.
Serving New York and Puerto Rico
ABOUT YOUR OFFICIANT
Jillian Stella — Somatic Healing Guide & Celebrant
Ceremonies are held by application — a limited number of couples are welcomed each season.